Read the signs, take a break & you’ll be back on it in no time

Read the signs, take a break & you’ll be back on it in no time

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I did something at the end of last week with ease and no guilt and it made me realise just how much I love getting older, how far I have come and how much I have learnt about myself.

The signs were there, a situation had arisen and I acted fast.

Sometimes we doubt ourselves, feel we’re not worthy enough for bigger things in life and sometimes we feel we can climb mountains and conquer anything. The low feelings and negative talk we give ourselves usually appear when our energy levels are low or we just don’t have real clarity over what we are supposed to be doing at that time. We get lost, feel overwhelmed and well, stuck. The good stuff by contrast, the feeling amazing, radiating positivity and being inspirational comes when we feel good, when we’ve slept well, have energy due to light exercise and yes, have eaten well…when we’re in good condition!

So, there I was having a morning where I was feeling ‘meh’,  I just couldn’t get my mojo going, nothing seemed to go to plan and I just wanted to be quite…hormones? Maybe. Lack of desire? Not really. Just one of those days. The frequency I was operating on was not doing me any good.

So I stopped, I did just that. I had no meetings, no skype calls to make and there was no need to speak with anyone, so I grabbed the dog lead…put it on Bella (my dog!) got my hiking boots on and got out into the woods and fresh air. I walked and threw the ball for Bella. The air cleared my head and I realised I was just tired, I’d been reaching for the biscuits and had been muching crisps at my desk while I had been working, I felt sluggish (certain foods really seem to have a bad effect on me these days) and uninspired and it had all contributed to my feeling ‘meh!’

WOW what a difference, within an hour and a half I was buzzing again, feeling refreshed, my heart had been exercised, fresh tree producing oxygen (just a theory of mine I must research!)  was back in the lungs and that burning white heat of desire to produce amazing things was back.  Didn’t take long did it? In days gone by I could have wadded through a whole day feeling like that and ended up just plodding on through and probably getting myself in a right old mood. Not any more. When the vibes go down there is ALWAYS a reason..we just need to stop and read the signs,

We all need to take a break from time to time, I know I really do need to get out daily, but sometimes we need a little more.

When you need to stop and take a break, do, don’t feel guilty, be kind to yourself, think about why this has happened, do something about it and you’ll be back on it so much faster than if you plough on through.

Don’t forget it’s one thing to know this stuff, it’s another to actually take the right action at the right time…that is where the successes show.

sara

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11 awesome reasons why I love having a dog

11 awesome reasons why I love having a dog

We got a puppy!

Back in May, we got a puppy, Bella. Neither my husband or I had ever had a dog before but after a good couple of years considering it we finally decided we were ready and took the plunge.

Before I get into this post I want to say that getting a dog is a MASSIVE commitment and one that needs really thinking about before you go ahead. We played a game with the children for ages when we were considering it called ‘where would the dog be now’. Every time we were doing something as a family we imagined if we had a dog – where would it be. With us? At home?. It helped us realise how much our family life would have to change and adapt to accommodate a four legged family member!

We decided to go for a puppy from a breeder, so we selected one that had been recommended several times and started the process. Having a puppy shouldn’t be under estimated. Yes, they are so cute and you instantly fall in love with them, but they also need to be trained and take up a great deal of time. They need constant supervision and demand your attention. The reality of that can be a bit of a shock if you are not prepared.

BUT…

OMG I love having a dog!

Why I love having a dog…

    1. They are always incredibly happy to see you.

I’m not lacking in love in my life at all. I’m blessed with my family and friends. However, no one, NO-ONE greets you like your dog does. Bella gets beside herself with excitement and you cannot be anything other than happy in return. This is wonderful, lifts whatever mood you are in and I cannot ever see me getting bored with that one.

2. You have to exercise them every day

Now I love to walk and as Bella gets bigger she needs more exercise, by the time she reaches a year we will be ready for some serious walking and adventures. But you cannot have a day where you don’t. So you do…even when you don’t want to really. But I find that no matter what i always come back feeling good after some fresh air and a walk.

 

3. They have mastered mindfulness and enjoy the ‘now’.

You kind of study your dog’s behaviour as you get to know them and they grown up. Bella is a cracking example of being happy in whatever she is doing, when she is doing it! When out walking she is sniffing and exploring and immerses herself in the fun to be found in where she is at that moment. Not a bad trait to have huh!

4. They love a good cuddle.

Who doesn’t love a good cuddle?

5. You meet sooooo many new people…

We have two children at school. Over the last 10 years as a portrait photographer I have photographed many local families and business people, I network in my local community, run a boys football team and we’re part of a local swimming club. We know a great deal of people in the area. But you get a dog and suddenly you meet all sorts of new people… and dogs. It’s Bella’s world really as we all know each other by the name of their dog! People strike up instant conversations based around Bella and it’s so very friendly.

6. They make great company

For all the family. I work from home now and she is a wonderful companion during the day. She’ll be with the children when they are at home and she has been known to watch and be with Craig when he is thumping about in the garage. They just want to be with their pack.

7. They make you laugh

Dogs do funny things. Fact.

8. They flag up when your emotions are down

Oh yes, dogs are very in tune with your feelings and moods. If you are sad, they want to comfort you. If you are angry they want to back you up. If you are down, they want to be near you, if you are happy they want to play.

9. They make you feel secure.

Dogs have great hearing and always seem to be ready to discover the source of something that doesn’t feel right. This is very reassuring when you are out and about on your own or indeed asleep in bed at night. They are very protective.

10. They make good listeners

Now before you think I am insane – bare with me. Sometimes, we have things we want to say out loud, you know, express a fear, concern or irritation because you need to get it off your chest, right? But sometimes, you don’t necessarily want to say it to anyone who may repeat it! So tell your dog! Bella always listens to me attentively, how fabulous! I love that the children talk to her too and tell her things about their day. It’s sweet.

11. You tidy up more as you go.

It’s amazing how quickly we’ve all learn not to leave ANYTHING lying around. Remote controls, shoes, xbox controllers…they all get put in a safe place…or they will be chewed up! So I guess having Bella as a puppy has made us tidy up as we go more!

Personify your body, re-count your life’s story then be kind to your body

Personify your body, re-count your life’s story then be kind to your body

I am 45 years old.

Adjectives such as perky, smooth and taught are no longer used

As a woman over 40 I am very much aware that adjectives such as perky, smooth and taught are no longer used when describing how my body looks these days. It is sooooo easy to moan and complain about getting older and highlighting all the faults and disappointments that come with an aging body.

However, try this, personify your body, recount your life’s story and see how you feel about her afterwards.

My body is 45 years old, the same as my mind I guess. My mind is active and certainly works overtime on a regular basis. It has great ideas and likes to be challenged and push comfort zones. My body, well, thinking about it she has been so loyal and has never let me down, she has always carried through everything my mind wanted to do!

I collected scrapes and bruises like trophies

As a child I learnt to walk, run, climb trees, swim and dance. I collected scrapes and bruises like trophies awarded for my adventures and my body healed and moved on.

As a student at university, I studied, threw myself out of an aeroplane (with a parachute I hasten to add), played sports and drank alcohol…and danced and drank alcohol…oh and I drank alcohol.I slept a great deal too. My body got over the hangovers, rid my body of the toxins and kept up with life.

As an adult, my body got me to work, took me on great adventures all over the world, united with another body (got married!) and conceived, made and produced me two beautiful babies!

My body is amazing,  it really has been loyal.  It has run 10ks, it has swam in galas, it has climbed mountains and cycled up and down hills, it has given birth and received surgery, it has fallen into the arms of another, it has shown me great pleasures and helped me achieve much.

When I stop and think about it I owe my body everything!

Have I ever been truly grateful?  

I am now, but I’ve not always been.

When I think about it, over the years, I have intentionally and unintentionally fed her toxins, chemicals and ooodles of sugar, alcohol and junk food. I’ve let her get dehydrated, drunk and fat and presented her with dangerous situations many times; sometimes in the name of fun and others by default. Yet,  she kept me going, alive and well. In more recent times I have complained about how she looks and that she is ageing. I’ve told her that she is not looking as good as she once.  My body, she merely remains silent and carries on.

If I have ever owned anything as old or even older than me (yes, there are such things ha ha!) I have always cherished and loved it and looked after it well.

My car gets serviced regularly and my home gets maintained, so perhaps I need to be thinking about more self care these days…for my body.

My body, my most loyal friend and companion, deserves to be treated more kindly and respected.

When I think of my body like this, I love her dearly, she is beautiful, she blooming rocks actually and from now on, she gets first class treatment all the way!

sara

 

Feeling invisible? 5 things to do to help feel visible again

Feeling invisible? 5 things to do to help feel visible again

Feeling invisible

Feeling invisible can be a very lonely and isolating experience. Most women at some point talk of feeling this way. It is usually coupled with a loss of identity and it’s easily fallen into. Sometimes it’s hard to feel ourselves.  We are too busy being someone’s mum, someone’s wife, someone’s …well you can fill in the rest, it can go on a bit, right?

So do you ever feel invisible?

It’s a good idea to ask yourself what has triggered this feeling. Are you being ignored? Excluded? Perhaps your opinions are being dismissed or you are simply not being heard in the first place.

Time to take action

The worst thing about feeling invisible is that it feels out of your control. A sense of doom, that there is nothing that you can do about it. But as always we have choices and here are 5 actions you can take to help you on your way to becoming visible again

1. Take responsibility

Like all your feelings, YOU can take full control of them and with a change in mind-set you can change their perspective on them. So take responsibility and don’t blame anyone else for how you are feeling. Being back in control can boost you immediately.

2. Question any other feelings you may be having

If you are feeling angry, resentful, anxious or unhappy with a situation, person or set of circumstances you can be more vulnerable to this feeling of being invisible. You may be screaming inside about something that needs to come out. Perhaps that is why you are figuratively not being heard or seen?

3. Look at your own behaviour

Have a think about how you may have been behaving lately. Once you’ve taken responsibility for your feelings this will become easier. Has your general behaviour changed? Are you coming across to those nearest and dearest to you in a more challenging way? What I mean here is, people often retreat from you if they feel threatened or disrupted in some way or simply don’t know how to approach you about something. If, for example, people aren’t your usual approachable self, they may choose to leave you alone, give you some space…your interpretation in turn is that they are not interested in you.

4. What kind of ‘chat’ have you been participating in recently

I’m afraid, sometimes, we are all guilty of having a bit of a moan, complaining, blaming, whining or feeling victimised. It’s not unusual for us not to be realising that this is what we are actually doing until we pick ourselves up on it. Just check in with yourself and some of the conversations you’ve been having lately. These types of conversations can be very negative and draining for others around you and can make people retreat, especially if this is ‘not like you’.

5. Tell people how you feel

First up, need to say here that I am NOT suggesting that you fly into a rage or burst into tears here and release how you are feeling like a massive waterfall of emotion on those you feel invisible with. This will not be a good thing to do! Pick the right moment, in a calm and considered way, just say how you feel and ask them if everything is OK. You may uncover some negative feeling towards you. Boom, this is actually great as at least you will know about it and can get into a discussion, find a solution and move on. Or it may be that they hadn’t realised you felt that way and can reassure you and change their behaviour too. You don’t know unless you ask.

Feeling invisible is not nice. You don’t deserve it. You deserve to be visible.

I see you, Gorgeous!

 

 

 

The power of consistency

The power of consistency

Not looking my best, but my smile should make up for it!

Little and often pays off

This short little clip is me after getting off the cross-trainer one morning…I felt compelled to share a few thoughts on the power of consistency. It’s often hard to get motivated, especially to get up early and do some exercise. But a little and often can have big effects and it’s this we must be mindful off. The end result is worth it. By concentrating on motivating ourselves to just do the little actions frequently soon means the bigger goal gets achieved!

The Power of consistency

So I wanted to make a video because I have being very consistent with something new!

 

Every day for the last couple of months I’ve been getting on our cross-trainer for  20 minutes or half an hour maybe. I do it as part of my morning routine so the same as I get up and brush my teeth, have my shower I now also do this for half an hour. During the last couple of months, and with a better diet,  I’ve lost a stone and it really hasn’t been that much of an effort.

 

My recovery rate is really good now and I’m feeling a lot fitter,  it’s complimenting my walking and my swimming and I’m really enjoying it.

 

But the point is that it’s the consistency,  it’s doing it every day that is really beginning to show the bigger benefits and I really enjoy it.  I feel completely alive, I feel ready for my day, whether that’s doing something with my family or getting on with my business. So it’s well worth doing.

 

When you’re struggling to get out of bed in the morning, think of the end product of what you’re getting up for and then it’s so much easier. You’ll have a purpose.

 

Just commit to doing it and believe you can do it…and then just get on with it!

sara