So after 10 years or so I am taking a break from being a professional portrait photographer. It’s been wonderful. I have met so many fabulous people and their families, shared in wonderful weddings, been the first to see newborn babies and laughed with wonderful families having fun. But the time has come.
I’m making big changes.
There, I said it…that wasn’t so bad. The world hasn’t stopped. I’m still the same person…aren’t I? Will I go back to it? Maybe. It’s OK to lose your mojo for something and evolve. I love my photography. That’s not going to change. My photography skills will not suddenly disappear. I LOVE taking images and I LOVE teaching it and that will continue. But sometimes, we have to mix it up a bit, keep life interesting. Photography will no longer be my main income source.
My life is very different now to when I first started. My children are growing up, I have different goals, new visions and desires, all requiring different actions from me. I will still be taking images, just different ones.
We get comfortable with the familiar, making big changes becomes scarier.
I used to work as a magazine publisher for Dennis Publishing in London many moons ago. The late Felix Dennis (owner of the business) once told me “It’s harder to stop doing something you’re used to doing, than it is to start something new. “ Oh goodness me, how true is that?
Felix was referring to closing magazines that were on the decline and launching new concepts that were going to be the next big thing…he was good at that. He knew when to move on.
When I left the publishing industry to go it alone and become a professional photographer, I was completely thrown as to who I was. I had lost what I realised WAS my identity. I was a magazine publisher in the corporate world and now I was…not. What did being ‘Sara the photographer’ mean to me? What exactly did that look like? Now, I’m stopping that after 10 years and so it’s all coming back to me…who am I again?
Losing our identity is easy to do.
I’m so many things. A mum, wife, aunt, niece, friend, lover, photographer, children’s football manager, swimmer, walker, puppy owner, cheesecake lover, fund raiser and the list goes on and on and on. When you become someone’s mum, someone’s wife, it’s so easy to become defined by them and lose some sense of who you are. So we work at keeping our passions alive and monitor what makes us who we are. We evolve. ‘Sara’ has a burning desire to do something else. ‘Sara’ has a new calling and that is OK.
Benefits of getting older
This is one of the many things I LOVE about getting older. I am far more comfortable with who I am, what I want and what I stand for. I’m also much more aware that I need to get on with it all NOW! Now is my time. I’m here, I’ve arrived! Do you know what I mean?
I know I have the ability to make changes in my life. I AM making big changes. I know I can conquer my fears surrounding that change. It will work out because I will make it work out. Being central to my family life AND having the challenge of creating something new and magical excites and motivates me immensely and that seems to be when I am at my happiest…”I want it all” mwah ha ha!
Decide, commit, devise, believe and do
So, having given it some thought over the last year whilst I have been winding down on my photography, I asked myself some questions.
- What do I love to do?
- What is it I want to change?
- Why do I want to change?
- What does my new calling look like?
- What skills do I need to learn to make it all happen?
- How do I make it all happen?
I now assume I can make anything work that I put my mind to. I’ve done things I once never thought I could do. I like to push myself. My formula for my own successes, whether completing a 10K road race, competing in a county swimming gala or opening a photography studio, is simple:
- Decide what I want to do
- Devise a plan to achieve it
- Believe I can make it happen
- Take action and do what needs to be done to make it happen!
Mix in some massive commitment and a few ninja moves on the usual self-doubts that appear from time to time (we all get them, right?) and off we go!
I love being in the company of other women who want to be the best they can be. Encouraging and supporting others to pursue their dreams and goals ignites an excitement in me. The teacher, coach and mentor in me needs her turn to ‘step up and shine’.
So I have a plan. I’m a lifestyle and self-development coach for women over 40, I help them overcome fears so they can do what they want to do and achieve the life they want. I coach 1-2-1, in groups and on-line. I also coach photographer’s in the same way AND I teach budding photographers…photography. Perfect next move for me.
Hiking Boots and Posh Pants.
So glad you are here to join me.
Over to you:
- Do you want to make a change?
- What is it you want to change?
- Why do you want to change it?
- What does the change look like to you?
- What skills do you need to learn to make it all happen?
- When will you start?
If you want to make a change – however big or small, start today my friend.
I believe in you.
Make it happen.